How I Work
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One on One Clients
So once you fill out the application, the next steps are:
go over all of the info on this page; I ask that you please read it all because I may already have an answer to a question you may have before we talk, and...
book a free 30-minute consultation with me.
The Evolving Nature of This Work
Part of working with systems is using what I learn and experience in this work and incorporating it into what I do, going forward. In that way, my policies are constantly being updated and I am continually shifting how I work with people so that I can hone my practices to be the most helpful for you.
Earlier this year I worked with clients on a 3- or 6-month timeline (client's choice), but I realized that for many multiples, this timeline is much too short. The idea was to give systems a break after a specific time frame so that they could process any major or minor changes that took place during our time together. While I do still feel that that idea is valid, I have realized that the timeline was insufficient for some.
DID systems are complex, and it can take months just to start getting to know them. I want our time together to be helpful, and part of that is making adjustments when I see something that's not quite working.
So... I am opening up the calendar to let multiples decide how long they need and what schedule they want to keep. My session days are Wednesdays and Thursdays from 9am to 6pm Central US time.
The Focus of Our Work
The focus of our work is getting your system where you'd like it to be. What this looks like will be different from client to client, according to what you and your inside people need. For some, it's taking the time to find out who else is inside and making friends with them. For others, it might be learning how to cooperate and communicate with their inside parts. Everyone is unique.
For those who need direction, I have a written outline for us to go through, with topics pre-planned for every week. This is only meant to be a reference point, and utilized inasmuch as it serves you. This is in no way set in stone and there is plenty of room for us to go off-topic and let you and your system lead the way as per what you need to process. When you decide to work with me I will send you a copy of this outline so you can review the topics beforehand from week to week and see if any of them resonate. If they don't, we will let topics come up organically.
I may also occasionally have homework for you to do, although it's not in any way mandatory. This is purely for the purpose of helping you grow. If you're like me and you love homework, hopefully it will provide something extra for you to focus on outside of our sessions. If you're the opposite and you hate homework, I won't ask you to do anything more than just think about it once or twice before we talk again.
I also know that life happens and you may be struggling with something specific - there is room for us to focus on that too. The outline is just a guideline that's available in case you're not sure what you'd like to talk about.
This is the question everyone wants and needs to know. :) So here it is:
I have lowered my session fee to help make it affordable for more people. This is for clients that I work with directly (not as a consultant).
My fee is $75/hour.
The session fee is due before the session, via PayPal. At the moment I have my calendar set up to automate this process, but if you pre-pay and then need to reschedule, please just let me know as soon as you know. It's fine if you need to reschedule; I get it. Life happens. We get sick, our kids need us, work stuff can come up - all I ask is that you let me know. Any no-shows that happen more than twice, will need to be referred elsewhere so that others can utilize the time.
You may be wondering why the cost is what it is, and here is why.
Besides the fact that one third of it goes to my nanny who looks after my kids while I work, I use a lot of tech tools that have yearly and monthly fees to use. Some of them include Zoom, the web domains and web hosting services, my calendar apps, Paypal, Canva, and Adobe.
Aside from that, when you work with me, I spend hours every week preparing for our time together, and looking for useful tools to pass along to you that will help you reach your goals. I give you my whole heart and show up 100% for every session, listening and responding to you. I take notes and review them outside of our sessions. Supporting multiples as they explore their systems is my passion, and also requires self-care and a level of self-awareness that goes beyond a normal 9-5 office job. It is time away from family, and it helps pay bills as well as compensate for the emotional labor of this type of work.
It is beautiful work, and also, a wild ride. I will never give you less than my best. My fee reflects all of these things.
Ready to do this?
I look forward to chatting with you!
Client Consultations for Professionals
I also offer consultations for professionals who are already working with multiples. These sessions are still 1 hour but the rate is $50/hour.
Please fill out the contact form with all the relevant details and we can schedule the session. The session fee is due before the consultation.