I first began discovering my system in 2005. It was scary and difficult because I didn't know anyone who could understand or relate, never mind help me make sense out of what was happening.
Out of the two people I dared to confide in, one took me to an exorcist and then abandoned me (I wish I was kidding but I'm not), and the other backed away from the friendship after about 6 months.
I couldn't find OR afford a therapist.
If you've read my blog, you probably know some of what happened. After 8 more years of struggle and denial I ended up working with a layperson connected to a religious ministry. I worked with her for 4 years. She did help me in some respects, but she also really f---ed up the boundaries between us and did a lot of damage to me and my system by the time everything was said and done. Consequently, I am no longer religious and I've learned a lot about boundaries, accountability, power dynamics, and harm in areas where religion, mental health, and vulnerable populations intersect.
At any rate, after blogging about trauma and dissociation for 4 years, researching trauma and dissociation and attachment, pursuing my own stability and health, and connecting with many others who experience some form of multiplicity, I became very familiar with many of the obstacles people like us experience. I've helped moderate recovery and informational groups on social media, gotten some experience with peer work, and begun working on my certification in narrative work. My hope is to use my knowledge and personal experience with dissociation and multiplicity to help other systems reach their goals (whatever those may be) as a team. Peace IS possible.
I do NOT have all the answers. That's important for everyone who visits this site to know.
And on a related note, I do NOT work with everyone. There are times someone needs more skills than I have, or needs more professional intervention that I'm not equipped to offer. I have an application process that serves as a starting point to determine if we're a good fit.
Also: I cannot "fix" anything - you've got to do that yourself, and I am here to offer my guidance. The good news is, there are a lot of things we can do together to make your life better.
So if you're ready to take the next step, hit the button and let's get started.